How Friends Make Us Who We Are

Dec 26, 2013

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From Faith Middleton: Though it is not widely discussed, there is a science of friendship peopled by academics, psychologists and others studying the earliest references to friendship, why humans began valuing friends, and how we continue these relationships all our lives.

What it all comes down to is the ancient human desire to connect. And while friendship connections can be complex, or destructive, they are also among the most important foundations of happiness.

Faith explores friendship with long-time contributor and best friend, Bruce Clements, and Carlin Flora, author of Friendfluence, who was on the staff of Psychology Today for 8 years, most recently as features editor.

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  • Bruce Clements is an author and long-time contributor to the show.
  • Carlin Flora is the author of Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are.


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