Dr. Nancy Horn's Tips on How To Avoid Food Fights

Sep 24, 2013

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Why do grownups and kids fight about food? Is there a way around it? I talk with New Haven psychologist Dr. Nancy Horn about re-framing the food fight strategy. Maybe you've had a food fight… or two million. No? Think about it…

It's a weekend. You're about to take a bite of the perfect fluffy glazed doughnut still warm from the fryer, the best looking doughnut the world has ever known. And just as you begin to wrap your mouth around it, your partner says, "I can't believe you're going to eat that! Before lunch? With your cholesterol!" Those are food war fighting words! True, food direction can be offered with the best of intentions, and maybe you are digging your way into a host of problems—along with bigger clothes.

But how much is the discussion about fear, control, or hostility? What's the smartest way to handle this common problem? Kids want cookies. Parents want them to have healthier snacks. You want more meat and potatoes, but your partner thinks you should both move toward a veggie diet. Or, you're convinced food has become a poison, and must be totally organic. Do you secretly wonder if even the brown paper grocery bag is made with life-threatening chemicals? In such a world, or frame of mind, is it possible to avoid food fights altogether? Dr. Nancy Horn has ideas and tips. She also has many children; she's seen and heard about food fights.

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